Let's talk about Wedding Ceremonies- Part 2

So, what exactly goes into a civil ceremony? How do you format a ceremony with a good flow...?
I created the following outline to use as a framework for creating custom wedding ceremonies.

Opening Words

To welcome family and friends, offer a brief statement about the meaning of love and marriage. I also like to include some information about or the history of the bridal couple; how they met, why they chose this location, etc.

The Readings

Verses from the Bible or other sacred text, poetry, song lyrics or other compositions that affirm the commitment of the bridal couple. Readings can be interspersed throughout the ceremony to punctuate a thought or feeling. Readings are used to personalize the themes that are important to the wedding couple and to allow friends or family members to be a part of the ceremony.

 

Declaration of Consent/Intent

A statement to the community that you intend to marry one another. This is the legal portion of a civil ceremony. Positive affirmation of intent to marry before the officiant is the only legally necessary element within the ceremony.

The Vows

Promises that the couple make to each other in regard to their marriage.  The most personal portion of the ceremony.

The Rings

Physical symbols of the promises made within the vows.

The Blessing/Wishes for the Bridal Couple

A prayer for God’s support in the marriage or an offering of wishes from the congregation and community in support of the marriage.

The Closing Words/Benediction

A statement of hope for the future.

Declaration of Marriage/Pronouncement

An affirmation of the legal union that has just occurred. Usually followed by the Kiss.

Presentation of the Married Couple

Other Elements which can be included:

Unity candle, Wine Ceremony, Sand Ceremony, Handfasting, Rose Ceremony, Parental or Community Vows, Presentation of gifts to Children, Breaking of the Glass, Champagne toast, Speeches, Sign of Peace, Remembrances.

 A good wedding ceremony should reflect the thoughts and feelings of the couple as well as keep the attention of the congregation.  It should be respectful of all present, no matter what their belief system. Most of all, the wedding ceremony should celebrate the love story of the Bridal Couple.

photos: Melinda Butler,  Hinkley Photography