Many of my Brides ask me for "Words of Wisdom" before heading out to begin their search for "The Perfect Gown." I had an article published a few years ago that included these tips and I find that it does help to consider a few things before stepping out on your shopping excursion!
Helpful Hints on Shopping for Your Wedding Gown1. Perhaps the most important tip-Have something to eat before you shop, trying on those heavy gowns all day can be akin to a day at the gym!
2. Appointments are helpful. Although you may be tempted to drop into a shop and start looking on the first Saturday after your proposal, be aware that setting up appointments will afford you more assistance at the salon. Also, bear in mind that weekends are very busy at most formalwear shops, especially during the busy bridal and prom seasons.
3. Scan that pile of magazines on your coffee table and bring along sample photos of dresses that you like. Don't be afraid to show your bridal consultant photos of neckline, hem, train, sleeve and fabric details. She will use this as a guide to the styles and elements you are most partial too. A picture is worth a thousand words!
4. Try several different styles and design elements to see what flatters your figure most. Don't get caught up in current trends alone. Also, try several different fabric hues. Shades are available from the purest white, to ivory, to rose to mocha. Many gowns are available in a choice of colors or fabrics, as well as 2-tone or with color accents.
5. Wear undergarments that you will not be embarrassed to be seen in, or carry along your own strapless or longline bra and a slip. Many reputable shops provide or require in-the-dressing room assistance so that sample gowns do not withstand too much wear and tear. If you are uncomfortable with this kind of help, just realize that bridal consultants have experience in fabric, dress lines and current styles and are trained to ensure you a good fit and flattering style.
6. Don't bring along an entourage- 1 or 2 girlfriends and Mom is enough! Choose to take your bridal party along for bridesmaid dresses on another day. Changing rooms are small and too many opinions can be confusing and even frustrating!
7. Sizing- Here is the tricky part. Don't be surprised if you are fitted for a larger size in a wedding gown than your usual off-the-rack size. Wedding gown sizes are based on bust, waist and hip
proportion measurements. Your measurements are compared to the specific designer's sizing diagram. Each designer uses their own chart for sizing purposes. Many wedding gown retailers will allow you to "sign off" on ordering a smaller size than is suggested by the manufacturer if you are dieting or expect to lose weight
at your own risk, but be aware that most gowns can be taken in up to 2 dress sizes with little difficulty but can only be let out minimally, if at all. There are also often additional charges for extra length (usually 5'9" or taller,) plus sizes and of course, custom requests likes linings, fabric or embellishment changes.
8. Alterations- MYTH-Gown retailers purposely order a size too large to ensure alteration charges. This could not be more incorrect! As noted above, gown retailers match your measurements to the vendor's sizing chart to find the best size for you. Therefore, if your waist and hip measurements fit a size 8, but your bust is a size 12, you'll need to order the gown to accommodate your bust and alter the gown down to your smaller measurements. This will ensure the most flattering fit. The majority of gowns require alterations of some kind.
9. Take your time, but do not wait too long. Many vendors can require 9 months for delivery. Conversely, if you are getting married in 2+ years, wait until the 1 year mark to gown shop. Your figure as well as current gown trends can easily change and this will help you to get the best style and size ordered.
10. Follow care directions from your bridal shop when you bring it home. Most salons or seamstresses will press your gown before pickup and suggest that you remove the garment bag as soon as possible so it will not wrinkle. It is best to place a clean sheet on the floor and hang your gown, veil and petticoat in a spare room away from people and pets to make sure it stays clean. You may also ask if the dress may be spot steamed or pressed if needed. Some fabrics do not tolerate steam and can show waterwarks, so be sure to ask first.
11. Finally- BEWARE of ordering your gown from an online retailer. These shops may offer a cheaper price, but will not offer you the insight into sizing, correct measurements and customer service.
Dance the night away in a gown that suits your style, personality and the formality of your Wonderful Wedding Day!!!
(photo, melindabutler.com)
